Find time, once a day, to tell him or show him your love. If you make the effort to show him your love once a day, whether it’s saying “I love you” at night or simply putting his toothpaste on his toothbrush for him, you will keep the relationship strong for a long time. If you’re afraid to show affection, just consider finding a time each day when you can do it. Even an extra-long passionate kiss is a great way to slow down time with your man for half a second.
Find ways to tell him without saying the words. Some people have difficulty saying the words “I love you.” But that doesn’t mean they don’t love their partner. If you’re having trouble showing affection, try these little techniques to let someone know you care:
- Hold or shake hands
- Make plans together for the future, even just future dates
- Introduce your friends and/or family
- Surprise him with kisses, hugs and affection
- Give compliments, encouragement and admiration.
- Do him small favors, especially when he seems upset.
Give him space and free time.
It seems counterintuitive, but sometimes the best thing you can do is not see it at all. Remember – you fell in love as separate people with separate lives – you need to preserve some of that independence to stay happy and in love. Don’t feel like you have to constantly talk or check in to show how much you care. Sometimes taking some time off is the best way to show that you know and love someone.
Speak openly and honestly when you are upset
Even loving couples argue. Don’t avoid arguments or problems by simply saying “I love you” and accepting your concerns. The most loving couples also have arguments, and you need to express them openly and honestly to keep your love alive. So don’t feel like you’re destroying your love or going back on your word if you raise a disagreement or issue – you’re just showing your love in another way.
Never let a partner pressure you into doing something you don’t want to “prove your love.” Love doesn’t need to be proven.
Tell your partner you love them whenever you feel love, not because you feel obligated. Everyone has a different comfort level when it comes to saying “I love you.” There are those who say it after every phone call and those who only save it for special moments, and there’s everything in between. Some even have fun saying it to each other by exchanging lovers’ bracelets. So don’t worry about how many times you have to say “I love you” or how many times you hear it. People are different and show their love in different ways.
These words mean a lot more when you say them. If you only say “I love you” when you feel full of love, you will both be much happier.